| Friday, November 11, 2011.  Chaos and violence continue, it's Veterans Day  in the US, we examine a Senate hearing on whether or not the National Guard  deserves a spot on the Joint-Chiefs, Exxon and the KRG get  closer , Iraqiya switches its position on provinces becoming semi-autonomous,  and more.  On this Veterans Day, the Pentagon finds itself in another scandal.  Last  night, David Martin (CBS Evening News with Scott Pelley -- link has  text and video) reported  on the Air Force's landfill scandal. Here's  a transcript of the first minute of the report.Scott Pelley: Just when you thought the scandal over  mishandled remains of fallen American troops at Dover Air Force Base couldn't  get any worse. It did today. David Martin has been reporting on the  investigation that led to a career ending letter of reprimand for the commander  of the mortuary and tonight David is at the Pentagon with new  developments.David Martin: A  landfill is no one's idea of a fitting resting place for a soldier fallen in  battle.Gari-Lynn Smith: No  service member, no human being at all, should be placed into a landfill -- no  matter if it's a finger nail, a foot or an entire bodyDavid Martin: Yet that is what happened to Gari-Lynn  Smith's husband, Sgt 1st Class Scott Smith, who was blown apart by a roadside  bomb in Iraq in 2006. Without her knowing part of his body was incinerated and  disposed of as medical waste in this Virginia landfill. She found out two years  after his funeral. Gari-Lynn  Smith: I have honestly no idea what we buried of him because they forbid me to  see him in the casket.The issue was raised by Senators Kelly Ayotte and Claire McCaskill in  yesterday's Senate Armed Services Committee hearing.  We noted the hearing in yesterday's snapshot  in terms of Ayotte and  McCaskill's remarks and questions on the disrespect shown to the remains of the  fallen (Isaiah 's The World Today Just Nuts   "Portions " notes Ayotte's exchange). That was a  needed topic and one more senators could have explored.  But the topic of the  hearing was whether or not the Chief of the National Guard should be a  Joint-Chief of Staff.    Senator Lindsey Graham:  Now, Mr. Johnson, headlines are made at  every hearing. Is the headline from this hearing "Obama Administration Opposes  Putting the National Guard Bureau Chief on the Joint-Chiefs"?   Defense Dept General Counsel Jeh Johnson: Uhm, uh, Senator, you've,  uh, heard the best military advice from --   Senator Lindsey Graham:  Well I'm going to tell you what Vice  President [Joe] Biden said in 2008 when he spoke to the National Guard  Conference in Baltimore, "It's time for change. Change begins with giving the  Guard a seat at the table -- that table in the Pentagon where the Joint-Chiefs  sit."  President [Barack] Obama's campaign document, Blueprint for  Change, page 55, if you want to read it, I haven't read it, I'll be the  first one to admit to it, but this part I do like. Obama will restore the  readyness of the National Guard and Reserves. He will permit them adequate time  to train and rest between deployments, provide the National Guard with equipment  they need for foreign and domestic emergencies. He will also give the Guard a  seat at the table by making the Chief of the National Guard a member of the  Joint-Chiefs of Staff."  Has he changed his mind?   Defense Dept General Counsel Jeh Johnson: Uhm, the, uh, uh, not to  my knowledge    Senator Lindsey Graham:  Don't you think when he said that, he  thought long and hard about this and he came to conclude as a prospective  commander-in-chief this would be a good idea?  And you're not here to tell us  he's wrong, are you?   Defense Dept General Counsel Jeh Johnson: The president and the  vice president are above my pay grade.      Appearing before the Committee was the Defense Dept's General Counsel Jeh  Johnson --noted above -- as well as the Chair of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Gen  Martin Dempsey, Vice Chair of the Joint Chiefs of Staff Adm James Winnefeld Jr.,  the Army Chief of Staff Gen Ray Odierno, Chief of Naval Operations Adm Jonathan  W. Greenert, Commandant of the Marine Corps Gen Jame Amos, Chief of Staff of the  Air Force Gen Norton Schwartz and the National Guard Bureau Chief Gen Craig  McKinley.  Senator Carl Levin is the Chair of the Senate Armed Services  Committee. Senator Scott Brown is also an attorney with the Judge Advocate  General's Corps of the Massachusetts Army National Guard.    Senator Scott Brown: I'm looking at a letter from General Amos and  Chief Greenert. In paragraph three of the letter says that "CNGB does not  represent a branch of service nor is CNGB responsible for manning and training  and equipping the National Guard to the extent of the service chiefs." And I've  got to respectfully disagree. Pursuant to the DoD directive as to the  responsibilities of what the Guard in fact does, they are responsible for entire  cradle to grave planning program budgeting and execution of these budgets.  Provides the President's budget for each of the APPN, which goes to Congress,  validates those requirements, provides the annual financial reports to Congress.  It's in fact the service chiefs that don't have any of that budget  responsibility.  Is that -- Was there a mistatement in your letter  there?    Gen James Amos: Well, senator, the point we were -- that I was  making was making in the letter, we-we the service chiefs, testify to -- are  held accountable to the Congress for the execution of those budgets as well. We  have budget submitting offices -- pardon me -- in the Navy who do similarly that  you just listed there.    Senator Scott Brown: But you said specifically, they have -- they  have, they're not responsible at all.  And, in fact, that's not correct. That  being said, I'd like to just shift gears a little bit.  Um, on -- Mr. Johnson,  you indicated that you felt that maybe it would create confusion as to who  represents the Army and Air Force and I've referenced letters -- General  Odierno's "confusion and balance," obviously General Schwartz' confusing lines  of authority and you, sir, Adm Greenert, complicated unity of command. I mean,  it is really any question as to what the chain of command is with the Joint  Chiefs? Obviously General McKinley would go through General Odierno and  obviously General Schwartz to General Dempsy. There's no chain of command breach  at all. I think it's very clear. And in addition to that, it would -- it would  -- I don't think there's any question that the command authority, the Title X  Command Authority wants to change. I don't believe the Guard or General McKinley  in his capacity is seeking a seat wants to change that at all. He wants -- he  wants -- and I believe, I don't -- I guess I'll just ask you, sir. You don't  want to change the Title X Command Authority at all, do you?   Gen Craig McKinley: No, sir. As I said in my opening remarks, it's  working well for us.   Senator Scott Brown: There's no confusions as to who you have to go  through in the chain of command, is there?   Gen Craig McKinley:  I-I-I have no confusion.   Senator Scott Brown: And with regard to the total  force integration, do you feel that that would be benefitted by you having a  seat at the table?    Gen Craig McKinley:  It's improved greatly as the service chiefs  have testified.  It can only get better.    Senator Scott Brown: And is there any question that you in  your capacity of having a seat at the table would be the person that could best  advise not only in any capacity through any of the service chiefs or the  president or anybody on the domestic mission and what the non-federalized units  would be able to do?  Espececially the homeland security issues that we're  facing? Is there anyone else better quaified than you in your capacity to do  that?   Gen Craig McKinley: Sir, I think it's my role and responsibility to  be that person.   Senator Scott Brown: I would agree with you and just to follow up  on what Senator Inhoff said, General Schwartz, on the fighter aircraft issue, is  it a fair statement that due to the effort to save money with the Air Force, the  Guard units are going to be eviscerated when it comes to aircraft.  And  especially, I've heard and others have commented that the TAGS can't gain access  to the plans as to what wings will be effected and how many of the aircraft are  going to be lost and isn't that another reason to have somebody like General  McKinley at the table that can advise those TAGS and others what the plan is for  the aircraft --     General Schwartz: Senator Brown, that's not a role of the Joint  Chiefs, but beyond that, the reality is that if the Air National Guard is going  to be eviscerated so will the active duty and the reserve.  We are getting  smaller together. That is what's underway here. And I would emphasize the point  that -- that we are now the smallest Air Force that we've ever been and so --  And because of that, those reductions that occur because of diminishing  resources -- which we all face -- will be shared by all the components.     Senator Scott Brown: Well you know that's interesting.  You know,  that is another reason why we all need to get back to the table and get this  select committee to work so sequestration doesn't come in and dramatically  effect this more.     Senator Kelly Ayotte noted that the record indicated that in 1978 the  then Joint-Chiefs opposed the Commandant of the Marines becoming a member of the  Joint-Chiefs of staff.  Gen Amos agreed that the change had not hurt the  Joint-Chiefs but stated he was not aware of the positions in 1978.     If there was a valid reason not to make the Chief of the National Guard, it  wasn't expressed in the hearing by the witnesses.  What they offered repeatedly  came off as, "If someone else is promoted to our level, our level becomes less  special for us."  If all them together couldn't come up with one solid reason  then either verbal skills are sorely lacking in military leadership or else  there is no solid reason to deny it.   An important point: The Guard is not being used as it was in the last  century.  Under Bush the Guard became another unit of the military to be  deployed to war overseas.  If that's what the Guard now is, then, yes, they need  to be represented in the Joint-Chiefs.  Their role has changed and they suffer a  tremendous burden and carry more than their weight. That largely went unsaid  except for Senator Daniel Akaka who noted it and how it calls for some  adjusments such as elevating "the Chief of the National Guard bureau to the  Joint-Chiefs of Staff is something that is overdue and will show our guardsmen  and their families that they are a true partner. It will also let them know that  their voices and views will be represented at the highest levels of  government."      Long before he became a senator, Lindsey Graham was serving in the Air  Force and today he serves in the US Air Force Reserves and is a Senior  Instructor at the Air Force JAG School.   Senator Lindsey Graham:  General Amos, pound for pound, do you  agree the Marine Corps is the best fighting force in the world?   Gen Jame Amos:  Yes, sir. We celebrate that today on our  birthday.   Senator Lindsey Graham:  Okay. Good. I agree with you. Do you agree  with me that the only thing older than the Marine Corps when it comes to  defending America is the citizen-soldier?   Gen Jame Amos: Sir, I believe that's true.   Senator Lindsey Graham:  Well okay. So I'm here to tell everybody I  appreciate it but the citizen-soldiers' day has come. You're going to get a seat  at the table, General McKinley, if I have anything to say about it.  We're long  into this fight as a nation. The first shot was fired by a citizen-soldier, it  is time for the citizen-soldier to be sitting at the table -- not for political  reasons, but for substantive reasons.                        The most vocal opponent was Senator Jim Webb who had no real reason to  explain why he opposed it today or why, when he was 25-years-old, he wrote an  article expressing the belief that the National Guard should have a seat on the  Joint-Chiefs.     In Iraq, things are heating up over an oil deal. Hassan Hafidh and James Herron (Wall St.  Journal) report , "ExxonMobil Corp. could lose its current contract to  develop the West Qurna oil field in Iraq if it proceeds with an agreement to  explore for oil in the Kurdistan region of the country, an Iraqi official said.  The spat highlights the political challenges for foreign companies operating in  Iraq" as Nouri's Baghdad-based 'national' government attempts to rewrite the oil  law over the objection of the Kurdistan Regional Government. Tom Bergin and Ahmed Rasheed (Reuters)  offer , "Exxon declined to comment, and experts speculated the move could  indicate Baghdad and the Kurdish leaders are nearing agreement on new rules for  oil companies seeking to tap into Iraq's vast oil reserves." UPI declares , "The breakaway move into  Kurdistan, the first by any of the oil majors operating in Iraq under 20-year  production contract signed in 2009, could cost Exxon Mobil its stake in the  giant West Qurna Phase One mega-oil field in southern Iraq." Salam Faraj (AFP) speaks  with Abdelmahdi  al-Amidi (in Iraq's Ministry of Oil) declares that the Exxon contract means that  Exxon would lose a contract it had previously signed with Baghdad for the West  Qurna-1 field.  Faraj sketches out the deal with the KRG beginning last month  with Exxon being notified that they had "48 hours to make a decision on  investing in an oil field in the region."  Exxon was interested but sought an  okay from the Baghdad government only to be denied.   Nouri al-Maliki and the Kurdish politicians (with the exception of members  of Goran) are in conflict and have been for some time now.  Over the weekend,   Al  Mada noted  that the country is in the midst of a political  crisis with no end in sight. This is Political Stalemate II. Nouri's refusal to  abide by the outcome of the election (Iraqiya, led by Ayad Allawi came in first;  Nouri's State of Law slate came in second) and surrender the post of prime  minister caused Political Stalemate I which only ended (November 2010) when the  political blocs met up in Erbil and ironed out an agreement where everyone made  concessions. This agreement is known as the Erbil Agreement. Upon all parties  signing off, Parliament held their first real session in over eight months and  Nouri was named prime minister-designate (Jalal Talabani would wait over a week  to name him that 'officially' in order to give Nouri more time to put together a  Cabinet.) Upon getting what he wanted, Nouri went on to trash the agreement.  This is the start of Political Stalemate II which has continued since. The  National Alliance, Iraqiya and the Kurdish politicians (except for Goran) have  called for a return to the Erbil Agreement.  Among the things that Kurds want is to see the Constitution followed.  The  2005 Constitution outlined how disputed regions would be settled: A census and a  referendum.  Nouri became prime minister in the spring of 2006.  The  Constitution called for the census and referendum to be held by the end of  2007.  Nouri operated in violation of the Constitution and continues to do so.   In the US, such an action could lead to impeachment. Kirkuk is an oil-rich  region that's in dispute with both Baghdad's central government and the KRG  claiming it.  Another big concern for the Kurds was Nouri's recent effort to  rewrite the oil law by proposing a new draft which would result in the KRG  losing their claims on many oil fields.  The Exxon back and forth today is only  the latest in a string of back-and-forth volleys between the KRG and  Nouri.       Amar C. Bakshi: Let's switch gears to Turkey -- an important  regional neighbor that over the past few months has intervened in northern Iraq  to go after Kurdish nationalist forces who have used terror to kill Turkish  soldiers, numerous civilians.  Now is the Kurdistan Regional  Government cooperating with Turkey in its interventions into northern  Iraq?   Prime Minister Barham Salih: These issues cannot be solved by  military means, these issues cannot be solved by violence. There has to be a  political track. This initiative that the Turkish government has started, the  democratization process, needs to be enhanced, deepend, in order to ensure that  this long-standing conflict is resolved in a differnt way.         Today, Aswat al-Iraq reports , Iraqiya's Azhar  al-Sheikhli announced Iraqiya has changed their position on the province issue  stating that they "are not against federalism, but there are many questions on  their implementation process."  Does that mean Kirkuk?  It might.  But last  week, Salahuddin Province set in motion, if the Constitution is followed  (Article 119), the steps to become a semi-autonomous province like the three  that make up the KRG.  On the issue of Salahuddin Province, Aswat al-Iraq reports  that Nouri and  Salahuddin Province Governor Ahmed Abdulla al-Jbouri and Nouri stressed that  there are so many 'dangers' while al-Jbouri stated "the declaration of Salah  al-Din as a region has become a public demand and cannot stop it."Aswat al-Iraq reports 1 Sahwa was  killed in an attack in Diyala Province while a second attack left two Sahwa  injured. Sahwa are also known as "Awakenings" or "Sons Of Iraq." The US  government paid them to stop attacking US military equipment and soldiers. The  Iraqi government was supposed to pick up the payments and did so slowly. They  were also supposed to incorporate the Sahwa into government jobs -- security and  non-security jobs; however, that hasn't happened. Instead, Nouri's targeted them  with arrests, often paid them late and never issued a statement decrying any of  the attacks on Sahwa. In related news, Mustafa Habib (niqash)  interviews  Iraq's Minister of National Reconciliation Amir  al-Khuzaei:NIQASH: The process of  reconciliation has been criticised – some say that it's avoided putting the  blame on certain parties – such as insurgent groups who carry out armed attacks  - even though they may have engaged in criminal  behaviour.Al-Khuzaei: In  our efforts to reconcile, we want to open up channels of communication with the  insurgents and to negotiate with them. The government will pardon those who put  down their arms to join in the reconciliation process. But this doesn't mean  that the rights of ordinary Iraqi citizens are compromised. Reconciliation may  be able to make compromises in the public interest. But it cannot compromise on  individual rights. NIQASH: Can you tell us more about the kinds of  dialogue that you have been having with armed  factions?Al-Khuzaei: We  have been engaged in a positive dialogue with some of the factions for whom  Harith al-Dhari [head of the conservative and mostly anti-US and  anti-Iraqi-government Association of Muslim Scholars, a mainly Sunni Muslim  group] is a spokesperson. We have also been fully engaged with the [Sunni  Muslim] 1920 Revolution Brigade, the [Sunni Muslim] Mujahideen Army, the [Sunni  Muslim] Islamic Jihad Brigades and the [Sunni Muslim] Ansar al-Sunnah group in  Diyala. Also [the Sunni Muslim armed group] al-Naqshbandia, [the Sunni Muslim  armed group] Hamas Iraq and the [Shiite Muslim] League of the Righteous. The  dialogue and the agreements we have come to differ from group to group. Some of  them were made on a collective level, others were on an individual level. In  terms of the latter, we've had members of armed groups approach us and say that  they wanted to quit their armed activities and return to their ordinary lives.  We have no objection to this -- in fact, we welcome it.Alsumaria TV reports  that yesterday  in Baghdad, a sticky bombing claimed the life of 1 Ministry of Health employee.  In Baghdad today, Aswat al-Iraq reports , "Hundreds of  Electoral Authority employees demonstrated today in Firdous Square, mid Baghdad,  demanding to be appointed in their full capacity, while other NGOs talked for  next Friday demonstration. Aswat al-Iraq correspondent said that the  demonstrators came from different provinces to demand that the martyrs of the  Authority should be given their lawful privileges."Alsumaria TV quotes  a political  analyst on the US and Iraq who states, "U.S. leaked through some of the media  they would go to the Security Council to consider The Iraqi government is a  competent and this allows again to return to Iraq and I think this Klha means of  pressure, because America did not like its the issue of withdrawal. According to  observers, the U.S. troops stay in the Gulf comes the desire of them fear for  their own interests or fear of potential Iranian expansion, as well as standing  desire of the United States to stay close to Iran in anticipation of launching a  military strike after sunburn Israel to do so."   Again, today is Veterans Day in the US.  Denise Goolsby (Desert Sun -- link has text and video)  reports  that 11 to 20% of veterans of the current Iraq and  Afghanistan Wars "report suffering from" PTSD. One Iraq War veteran with PTSD is  Justin Weathers. Matthew Renda (Union) reports :Since his return stateside in 2004, Weathers often is  unable to shake habits of vigilance he cultivated to stay alive while fighting  in the town of Ramadi, often reported as the site of some of the Iraq war's most  fierce fighting. "If you stopped at a  stoplight in Iraq, you were going to get shot at," said Weathers. "There was a  lot of chaos; it was just … it was just hectic."Weathers is currently in therapy in an attempt to  manage the nightmarish memories and persistent symptoms of post-traumatic stress  disorder that have continued since he first received his honorable discharge  from the armed services. There is also what military commanders  have called the signature wound of the current wars, TBI -- Traumatic Brain  Injury. Sgt Laura Todd is among the many with TBI. Colleen Flaherty (Killeen Daily Herald)  reports :"There was an  explosion off the (base) and the concussion blast blew me off my feet," said  Todd. She finished her deployment with the rest of 3rd Battalion, 82nd Field  Artillery Regiment. "We just run on pure adrenaline." It was only upon returning  home that Todd noticed something was wrong. "I couldn't figure out which slot the fork went into  in the drawer, or I couldn't (remember) how to tie my shoes, things like that,"  she said. As with every war, there are also those who lost limbs,  those who have had their hearing and/or vision harmed or lost, those who  suffered burns and much more. On today's Fresh Air  (NPR) , Terry Gross spoke with journalist David Wood  about some of the severely war wounded. Those who  served in the war include the fallen and that's those killed while serving and  those service members who took their own lives and veterans who took their own  lives. Yesterday on The Diane Rehm's Show 's first hour, Diane and her guests explored military suicides (link  has audio and transcript ).  We noted that in yesterday's snapshot; however,  the link was not included.  My apologies.Today's remembered also includes those who died of natural causes and those  who died from wounds or exposures from the war zone which claimed their lives.   Those dying from toxins they were exposed to while serving may have been around  or worked the Burn Pits.     Iraq War veteran Leroy Torres and his wife Rose Torres work on the Burn Pit  issue non-stop. Another person who does is Iraq War veteran and Afghanistan War  veteran Daniel Meyer whose blog can be found here . This month  the three of them and others have been working on lobbying for a Burn Pit  Registry. Wednesday, Daniel Meyer  reported :Yesterday,  November 8, 2011, BurnPits360 stormed  capitol hill, kicking off a three day campaign. The second week in a row  being in our nations capitol, this event displays the dedication and  tenacity this great organization exudes in support of veterans who have  been negatively affected by toxic burn pits. It also comes just a few short  days after the introduction of the Open Air Burn Pits Registry Act  of 2011 by Congressman Todd Akin --  R -- Missouri. The burn pit issue is one that there should be  strong support from Congress on. But there really hasn't been. When some --  then-US Senater Evan Bayh in 2009 and 2010, for example -- have attempted to  lead on the issue by introducing a bill for an Iraq Burn Registry, others have  refused to allow a bill out of committee. Milan Simoniah (Las Cruce) reports  Iraq War veteran  Master Sgt Jessey Baca is working on the issue:Baca was the first veteran from New Mexico to publicly  say burn pits were killing soldiers. He stood with the state's two U.S. senators  last week after they introduced legislation to create a registry that would  track veterans who were exposed to open burning and help them get medical  treatment. America's military created the burn pits as a practical means to keep  bases in Iraq and Afghanistan functional."They burn constantly to get rid of trash, metal,  batteries, chemicals, human waste, plastics, paint. Contaminated jet fuel is  used for the fire," Baca said one recent afternoon. As awareness  increases, we see efforts to minimize the realities of Burn Pits. Last week, the  Institute of Medicine published a silly study researched by several people who  depend upon government funding to finance their other studies . Even  then, they couldn't come out and say there was no link between burn pits and  serious damage to respiratory systems, forms of cancer, etc. The most they could  offer was that further study was needed because they couldn't prove or disprove.  J. Malcolm Garcia (The Investigative Fund) published  a  brilliant take-down of that 'study' today and he also noted:Last year, long before the IOM report, the US  government acknowledged the injurious effects of burn pits. According to a report released last year (PDF) by the United States  Government Accountability Office, "burn pits help base commanders manage waste,  but also produce smoke and harmful emissions that military and other health  professionals believe may result in acute and chronic health effects to those  exposed."   The VA states on its own webpage that  chemicals, paint, medical and human waste, metals, aluminum, unexploded  ordnance, munitions, and petroleum products among other toxic waste are  destroyed in burn pits. Possible side effects, the department notes, "may affect  the skin, eyes, respiration, kidneys, liver, nervous system, cardiovascular  system, reproductive system, peripheral nervous system, and gastrointestinal  tract."   So while further study may elicit more  information about the effects of breathing burn pit fumes as well as the dust in  Afghanistan and Iraq, the verdict appears to be in, and that is that the  government knows that just breathing the air poses severe consequences to its  soldiers. 
 
 It took decades for the Congress to get behind an Agent Orange Registry for  veterans exposed while serving in Vietnam and surrounding areas. In 2009,  then-US Senator Evan Bayh attempted to get the ball rolling on Burn Pit Registry  hoping it would take far less time than the struggle for an Agent Orange  Registry.         Though returning to life outside of a war zone usually requires some  readjustment, many service members and veterans are fortunate enough to return  with no major physical, mental or emotional wounds. Many veterans are also  furthering their education, some utilizing the Post-9/11 GI Bill.  Kevin Fagan (San Francisco Chronicle)  reports  on Iraq War veteran, Staff Sgt Josh Aguilar who will be attending  San Francisco City College next semester and explains, "I learned in the  military that when you want to get something done, it's best to have a plan. So  I have one, and at the same time  I am open to everything." Iraq War veteran  Chris Seaman is a college student and he shares his thoughts at the  Drury Mirror :There were crappy times when you realize how much  you've got left over there, but overall it was good. I learned the values of  hard work, team work, and leadership.
 One thing I'd like for people to know  is that not all young enlisted servicemen are loud, MMA gear wearing douchebags,  although most are.
 We do not get wasted and have a grand ole time in Iraq and  Afghanistan like some movies portray.
 It really bothers me that a lot of  people think we're just getting hammered and running around shooting camel  spiders, of which I never saw a single one.
  Community note: Wednesday night, Cedric  and  Wally  did one of their usual funny joint-posts ("The Whiner In  Chief " and "THIS JUST IN! BITCHY IS  HOW HE ROLLS! ") while others in the community posted on a  theme of "The first time I felt like a grown up." The theme posts are  Ann 's "2 men, 2 women The first  time I may have broken federal law, " Betty 's  "The second time I got my  period, " Trina 's "Parking, "  Rebecca 's "that time i stole a  watch from a teacher, " Ruth 's "My first cup of coffee  in front of my parents, " Kat 's "My first time hosting  the pot party, " Marcia 's "My first R-rated  film, " Stan 's "My first big  purchase, " Elaine 's "The first time I faced  my issues " and Mike 's "My first  orgasm. "      |